Things I have learned the hard way

Many new things you can learn after a tough break-up

You might have went through a hard break-up once or twice in your life. You’ve lost a person you thought you’ll be with forever. Suddenly, everything has changed: your mental state, your feelings, your routines, your life.

What’s also common after a hard break-up is suddenly seeing your own mistakes that you’ve previously made. These are some of the things you may have learned after a tough period in your life:

Don’t choose your partner over friends at the very beginning.

It is a wonderful thing to have someone you can lean on to, someone that will be happy to spend all of their time with you. However, some people begin declining their friends and spending all of their time with their partner.

After some time, your friends will start feeling unwanted and some of them may even leave you if they haven’t been in your shoes before. Those who have been there, done that will understand your silliness.

Don’t change yourself because of your partner.

The best feeling in the world is to be loved by someone who finds you perfect for them. You and the person may get along really well, but you will probably at one point see that there are quite a few differences between you.

It’s all okay if there is no persuading, but if the other person starts to show interest in you changing to fit them better, tell them that you’re not interested. After all, the only person you’ll be with your whole life is yourself.

Do you want to be your true or fake self

You can’t change people and you never will.

He maybe seemed perfect and everything you wanted the first time you guys have met. When you started ti date, you have probably seen his other side.

He is maybe really immature, maybe he likes to flirt with other girls, maybe he is really mean sometimes.

You have probably thought that you can change him, but the truth is that you cannot.

You have thought about him as somebody perfect that only has to be talked to a bit to improve a few flaws.

A man doesn’t work that way. Everyone is the way they are and that cannot be changed.

You shouldn’t have ignored the signs when you have seen them.

In your mind, you have known it wasn’t going to work out. You are a wise woman and you were aware both of the mistakes you have made and the mistakes he has.

But you are an emotional woman who wanted to love and you ignored those sings. You wanted to believe it was okay.

Next time you will think less with your heart and more with your mind. Just like you want to, but don’t allow yourself.