Stop Texting Him And See What Happens – 5 Reasons Why It’s A Good Choice
We all know that dating is hard, especially when you are in that pre-dating phase when you are trying to impress each other and see if you are actually a good fit. Which is why texting properly is really important. I’d say it’s as important as reading between the lines when he is texting.
You’d be surprised, but there are many clues in texting that reveal how much he is into you or even if he’s an abusive psychopath.
Now that we have established that texting and dating is hard, there is this fun technique of texting that is well – no texting at all. Does it really work? When is the time for you to use it? Is it really worth the fuss?
Well, we will get to it right away, but along with the reason why it’s a good choice to stop texting him, we bring you all the steps you need to do before you choose to do it and all possible outcomes of the no-texting rule. Stop texting him and see what happens!
Stop Texting Him And See What Happens – 5 Reasons Why It’s A Good Choice
Let’s get to it!
1. You’ve already been left on ‘read’
The thing is, if he wants to talk to you – he will talk to you. No matter how busy he is or what he is doing, at least he will let you know that he will get in touch with you later. And even if he is forgetful and super busy, that’s not an excuse for ignoring your texts.
Which is why you need to stop texting him if you already sent two or three messages in a row with no answer. And no matter how urgent what you have to tell him is, resist the temptation and put your phone aside. It’s important that he sees you are not his hit and run girl, that you are not there just for him to vent when he needs to. If he wants to be with you, he needs to show some effort.
2. When all of your communication is only over texts
If you just met and you are not ready to go on dates every single night, okay. If that’s something you are perfectly fine with, that’s okay as well. But if your communication is only over texts and when you suggest you two meet up, he makes up some random excuse just to postpone it – there’s something fishy about it.
Think about it. If you want to meet someone, and I mean really meet them, you would want to spend some time with them. If he’s avoiding doing it, it could be because he has someone else in his life or he’s just keeping you as a back-up plan. And you deserve none of it!
3. You are always the one who texts first
This one is okay if you are the one who wakes up first in the morning and if he is really into texting with you. But if you are always the one who texts first, even if he’s been awake or active on social media, it’s time you take a break.
For a change, give him the opportunity to start the conversation first. Give him the opportunity to see what it’s like when you don’t want to be the one to initiate the communication. He will either realize how much he misses talking to you and be the one to text first or he will show you that he is not that interested in you. I know it’s hard, but it will save you time and save you the even more painful heartbreak.
4. You are the one carrying the conversation
For a relationship, same like for a conversation, it takes two. If he’s making you carry the conversation on your own when you are at early stages of your relationship, imagine what it’s going to be like when you are actually in a more serious relationship.
Being in a one-sided relationship sucks balls same like it sucks when you are talking to yourself. If he is not showing interest in talking with you, then you should stop showing interest into talking with him. Even if it’s the only thing you want to do, sometimes it’s better to pull back in order to move on forward.
5. He’s asks you to do it
This is a whole different aspect of texting and relationship. Some men play hard to get, so they ignore your texts. Some men just love being chased, so they make you do it. Some men are not interested in you, it’s simple as that. And then some men are manipulative assholes who are exploiting their abuse over texts.
If he is bombing you with messages and calls and demands you to text him throughout the day, just so he would know where you are at every single moment, run! It will never get better because men like that need to have everything under their control, including you. And before you even know it, he will gain control over your whole life and isolate you from your friends and family, so he can be the only person you can turn to.
If you found yourself in any of these scenarios that are damn good reasons why you should stop texting him, keep on reading to see what the steps you need to do are when you’re thinking about stopping texting him. They’re incredibly important because they can help you see in which direction you want this relationship to go.
Do you want it to end for good, because he doesn’t deserve you or do you just want to use this technique to light him up a bit? Whatever it is that you choose, keep in mind that you deserve to be happy and that you deserve someone who will always put you first.
Stop Texting Him And See What Happens – 5 Reasons Why It’s A Good Choice
Now, to the steps:
1. Check your current texting habits
The thing is, the way we text tells a lot about us and sometimes it’s really hard to hide how much we are interested into someone when we are talking to them. We are eager about meeting them, we want to know everything and we want them to know everything. But it’s important that you stop for a second and see if you are being played.
Are you always the one who texts first? Are you always the one who carries out conversation? Are you talking about some random stuff that isn’t necessarily important or interesting? In this case, it’s time for a change of tactics.
2. Think about the content of your messages
Like I said, is this some random stuff that pops into your mind throughout the day and you share it with him without thinking if it’s important to him? This is a perfectly fine thing to do when you find your weird-mate, but if you are just getting to know each other, you may want to lay down a bit on this.
Are your messages filled with kinky talk and sexts? Is it because he wants to have it that way or because you want to? If he is the one who initiates sexts but leaves the moment you want to talk about something else, it’s time you start doing the same thing to him. The thing is, he is only keeping you around for sexting. He is not really interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.
3. See how much he really likes you
I know that it’s hard to look the truth in the eyes, but for your own sake, you have to do it. Luckily, there are many signs that can tell you he is into you. When you are together, he mirrors your movements, moves closer to you and always talks quietly so you would lean closer to him. But if he only talks about himself and barely never acknowledges you, he is only into himself.
And when you are texting, he will always let you know when he is busy and apologize for not being there. If that’s not something he does, instead he disappears with no apology and explanation, give him a taste of his own medicine!
4. Leave at the peak of a conversation
This one is probably the hardest to do because you really want to talk to him and you want to have a good conversation. But the thing is, you want him to crave you. You want him to want more, which is why it’s important for you to leave at the peak of conversation.
Keep in mind that this is not something you want to do all the time, but once or twice will do the trick. If you two established a connection, show him what it’s like when he loses it for a short while. This may look like a game you are going to play with him, but sometimes in order to win you need to play.
5. Let him come to you
Lastly, don’t be the one who texts first. Like I said earlier in the article, give him the opportunity to be the one to chase, to be the one to initiate the communication. You deserve to be chased as well!
And now, all the outcomes that can happen if you stop texting him. If you weren’t assured by now that it’s the right call to make, you will be. Trust me, men maybe love to be chased but they love to chase even more!
Stop Texting Him And See What Happens – 5 Reasons Why It’s A Good Choice
1. He wants to know what happened
When you are texting all the time and it suddenly stops, it’s natural that it spikes his interest. If he is into you, he will text you in order to find out what happened or he will even call you out on a date to talk about it in person. On the other hand, if he is not that into you, your phone will remain silent. It may hurt your feelings, but it’s better it happens this way before you fell for him completely.
2. He starts missing you and showing interest in your everyday life
Like hand in hand, this one goes with the first one. When he finds out what happened and why you pulled back, he will suddenly show interest in your everyday life and he will try really hard to keep the conversation going. The thing is, men hate to lose and he almost lost you, all because he was an idiot. And that’s something he will try not to do again.
3. His schedule clears out suddenly and he starts chasing you
Once you cut him off and stop texting and talking with him, suddenly there is a bunch of free time in his schedule for you two to text and hang out. You see, you were always the one who would do all the work, always the one to initiate the conversation and plan dates. Once you stopped doing it, he realized that he needs to put in effort in order to keep you.
Funny thing in a relationship is that if you don’t demand respect, you will never get it. And this applies to every single relationship of your life, not just love ones. Show him that you are not his to play with and that your feelings are as valuable as his. Your time is as precious as his. Once you show him that you deserve respect, he will give it to you. If he doesn’t, he’s not worthy of you anyway.
4. You fall in love with yourself and your life
And the best outcome of them all – you actually fall in love with your life. Once you stop losing time on some idiot who can’t make up his mind about you, your schedule clears out for all the things you always wanted to do. You have time to pamper yourself, to go wine tasting, to go hiking and you have time to follow your passions and dreams.
Once you show him that you are not to be played with, you will also start respecting yourself more. And this is something I learned the hard way. Until I stopped giving a damn about the wrong people in my life, I couldn’t start giving one about myself. And is there a greater love than the one you can give yourself?
