It Is Not Shameful To Say That You Never Made Your Dreams Come True

Every man has two things that no one can take away from him: imagination and dreams.

As kids, we dream to become doctors, teachers or firefighters.

Some of us achieve to fulfill our dreams, and some unfortunately not.

When we finish high school and we all get together ten years later for a party on this occasion, for those who haven’t realized their dreams this is something of a nightmare.

They all ask you questions about what happened to your plans, stories, and desires, and you want to go anywhere, just not to answer those questions.

For some reason, people think that they should always get an answer to this question.

No one thinks about how someone feels when he is asked this questions, or what is hidden in them.

And if you don’t answer them, they think you’re uncultured.

Why do people even have the need to ask you some personal stuff?

Will he be happy or sad if you tell him that you have been dismissed at work or that your boss has given you a raise?

What do people have with someone who has chosen different dreams or left their dreams?

We often say: don’t give up on your dreams.

But this time the story ha a sequel: Replace your old dreams with your new dreams.

Do we have to be unhappy if we haven’t accomplished what we dreamed of?

Of course, we don’t have to, but we are afraid of what others will say. In such situations, it’s not just a matter of not having our dreams realized, but we didn’t do what other people expected.

And then we are starting to be unhappy.

The only way to find the way out of such a situation is not to be ashamed of our failures.

Women are often ashamed of their failures. They try to hide them with something else and they avoid such topics.

This is because they are afraid they will look ‘weak’  if they admit it.

A woman should be aware that her failure can be her greatest strength.

FAILURE  MEANS A NEW BEGINNING!

All right, you had dreams and they all crashed. What’s your next step?

Will you lie about it, hide what happened or do something about it?

The first two options will certainly bring even more negative things to your life.

You will have to find more excuses and justifications and that will make you create a world you don’t want to live in.

But the third option can change everything.

Of course, this is not an easy task, but it can be accomplished.

These are the five factors that can fix every failure:

1. FIND OUT WHAT CAUSED YOUR FAILURES

We know that you didn’t want this to happen, but there is certainly a reason for it. Is it about the wrong people in your life or a bad love story happened, you had disagreements with your family, you don’t like your own job or anything else.

You have to find this out, all alone. The thing you most often think about and why you don’t sleep peacefully is always the best answer to this question. If you have even a bit of negative energy focused on something in your life, ask yourself what’s wrong with it.

2. NOTHING COMES RIGHT NOW, THINGS TAKE TIME

What caused this situation didn’t happen suddenly. Don’t blame yourself for not noticing it in time. It couldn’t be seen. Very small and invisible steps lead to great things in life.

3. CONFESS YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE FAILED

To make a new step in life you have to talk to yourself. The biggest victories in our lives are those we have over ourselves. Talk to your fears loudly and admit to yourself that you didn’t succeed.

Confession is a great advance. This is like a treatment when people are taking off alcohol, so they must first admit they are alcohol addicts. When you admit to yourself what you still hide from others, you are ready to share it with them.

4. SHARE YOUR FAILURE WITH OTHERS

We share nice things all the time. When something happens to us, we are talking to our friends about it. We talk publicly about our wedding day or about our graduation, but we never talk about the days when we lost something.

Because we are not talking about it doesn’t mean that this hasn’t happened. It will not erase the failure, it will only press it deeper and cause depression.

The same way you share beautiful things share also the bad things which happened. Share it with your closest,  before they ask about them.

5. RECEIVE FAILURE AS A POSITIVE STORY

Everything is happening to us for some reason. Perhaps it was not the right time for your dream to come true or to prepare for the great things that are just about to happen.

From every failure, learn something new and look at it as a positive thing that made you even stronger a woman.

If it had not been that failure, you wouldn’t know who your true friends are and who you can rely on, and you would not know yourself so well.

Failure can change you completely. It can teach you not to avoid questions and gatherings and to turn things around for your benefit.

You will look like a woman who knows how to deal with defeats, like someone who is strong.

Over time, you will notice that people ask less and fewer questions about it, because you will be ready to respond to everything, and then it is no longer interesting to them.

Then they will find a new victim that will look down in shame and avoid talking about failures.

It’s not a shame to say that you have failed to realize your dreams, it would be a shame to try to steal someone else’s dreams. We all dream of what we desire and we have the full right to fail at some of them.