5 Things To Do When An Emotionally Unavailable Man Keeps Coming Back

3. Ignore the positives and believe the negatives

I’ve been there, where you are now. Always thinking about the good times we had together and all the times he made me feel like I was the most amazing woman out there. Like I was the only one for him and the world was at our feet. But the thing is, it never was. I was never the only one for him and there was never a future for us to share. And it wasn’t until I realized the true nature of our relationship that I was able to move on.

If you are sure you don’t want him in your life anymore, focus on the negatives. Focus on all the times you stared at an empty screen, waiting for his message. Focus on all the times he led you on, the times when he promised you the world and gave you nothing. See him for who he is, not the person he pretended he was.

4. Don’t put yourself at his beck and call and keep the no contact rule

When you’re involved with an emotionally unavailable man, the thing is that you control your role. At first, you don’t know who he is and you give him everything, because that’s just how you love. But later on, once you see him for who he is, it’s incredibly important for you to change that role. Cut him off and don’t go running to him the moment he calls you. I get it, you still love him and you want to help him but you need to help yourself first!

And that’s exactly why keeping the no contact rule is essential for you to move on. It’s the only way that you can show him loud and clear that you have moved on and you’re no longer up for his games and manipulations. It’s time for him to look for another victim, because you ain’t one.

5. Become the woman you always admired

That amazing, fierce woman who lets no one take away her worth. The woman who stands her ground, no matter what life throws at her. The woman who holds all the cards in her hands and knows how to deal them.

Guess what? You are already that woman. Just because you fell, it doesn’t mean you’re no longer her. Just because you believed and hoped, it doesn’t mean you’re not badass and fierce. And just because you loved the wrong man, it doesn’t mean you’re less of a badass woman. You may lose your ground for a second but you know where you stand. Don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise!