5 Things To Do When An Emotionally Unavailable Man Keeps Coming Back

4. Friends with benefits

You know what he wants when he asks you to remain friends. He wants all the benefits of the relationship minus the commitment. Honey, you deserve more than that. You deserve more than being someone’s backup plan and safety net. And you deserve more than to be his late-night booty call.

This one is all up to you. If you can be friends with him, without all this beneficial shit going on, you go for it. Not everyone is the same and not everyone needs the same steps in order to heal. Maybe you need to be close to him to remind yourself every day that you’re better off without him. Or you need him to disappear from the face of the earth. But whatever you do, remember to put yourself and your needs first. You deserve to be happy too.

5. Showing off

He goes off the radar for a while and all of a sudden he’s traveling the world, starting a successful business and he’s Instagramming the shit out of it all. I mean, if he wasn’t that much into social media before, think a bit about the reason behind this new-found social media love. I think you already know the answer.

The reason behind all of this is to show you that he’s so much better than you are. Maybe what he did to you and the way he hurt you affected his ego and shook his world for a bit but have no fear—he’s back on his feet again. He needs to be the best one out there, he needs to have the best chicks around him, the best car and to rub it all in your face. It’s his way of telling you that he has moved on and there’s no chance in hell you will ever get back together.

The solution to this? The no contact rule. Block him on all social media, delete his photos from your phone and do your best to ignore him. But don’t forget to remind yourself every single day that you are amazing and worthy and the fiercest human being out there. You swam oceans of your sadness and you conquered hell. He’s nothing compared to that.

Keep in mind that an emotionally unavailable man will never come back crawling to you. He is a master of manipulation and he will make you come to him, with all these games of jealousy, showing off, rebounding and staying friends with you. The whole idea is that you see only the best of him, which is supposed to make you miss him like crazy. And the worst part? It actually works. When we’re in love, we’re not thinking clearly. And he knows it. So, here are 5 things to do when your emotionally unavailable man keeps coming back:

1. Stay out of reach
Tell him that you’re done and show him. Every time he calls you, show him you’re not there for him. Every time he wants to make you jealous, show him that you don’t care. Pretend that he’s no longer there and when it’s necessary to acknowledge his existence, give him an Academy Award-winning smile. Make sure that you are out of reach of him, from his games and toxic love.

2. Remember that it was never you
It was never your fault. His inability to commit and stay loyal has nothing to do with you. You gave your best, you worked your ass off for this relationship to work out. And sometimes, it just doesn’t. Because it takes two for love and you were the only one working on it.

And every time he comes back to you, asking for a second chance or driving you crazy with his mind games, remind yourself that you’re better than that. Remind yourself that his immature ass doesn’t deserve your time.