An Open Letter To The Person Who Loves Her Next
Dear Whoever loves her next,
Before you make her fall for you, you need to know a few things. And you need to be ready to do a few things as well. You also need to prepare yourself for some things since she is not like others. She’s not like other girls and loving her won’t be like anything you’ve experienced so far. Someone needs to prepare you for this—it might as well be me.
See, this girl you want, she’s been through a lot in her life. She’s been bruised too many times. She’s been taken for granted. She’s been broken as well. She kept giving her all with each next time she tried, hoping that this time, things would take the right turn. But each time, she experienced another heartbreak.
People who should have loved her broke her. People who should have been there walked out on her. Those who should have been there choose not to.
She’s been disappointed one too many times.
She never expected from people some extraordinary things. She just expected things she deserved. On in her life, she hoped to get at least as much as she gives. But apparently, that was too much to ask.
One would think that after too many disappointments she’d start losing hope in everything. But she didn’t. She never allowed herself to change just because some people didn’t bother to love her right. Instead, she always held on the hope that one day, someone will know. I pray you’ll be that someone to her.
She’s guarded now.
She used to wear her heart on her sleeve. But her past taught her to not to do that anymore. It taught her that not everyone deserves her love and that not everyone will love her back just because she gives them her heart. So instead of giving her heart to those who wanted it, she decided to give it to those who actually deserve it.
She’s been let down so many times.
Others made promises that they had no intentions of keeping. They just wanted to use her kindness and made her believe that they’re willing to do everything for her like she was willing to do for them.
But even that didn’t change her.
She never stopped being kind or loving. She never stopped being who she is. She has a heart bigger than the space for it and nothing bad that has ever happened to her could ever make her into someone new.
She knew that everything she’s been through in her life was a lesson and she always watches for the signs carefully, trying to read what the universe is trying to teach her.
She never gave up on love or on loving. She never got tired of the love she felt deep within and she’s been walking on this Earth hoping to find someone who’s going to love her right. But she swore not to give her love just like that. She swore to keep it for the one who actually deserves to get it.
She loves right.
In her loving, there is no such thing as half-assed love. Whenever she loves, she gives it all in. She doesn’t hold back and she’s always honest. With her, you’ll always know where you stand. With her, love gets this whole new meaning and getting her love will make you feel like all the previous loves were not true ones.
But getting there with her is hard.
It’s not going to be easy.
You need to understand that you won’t only need to prove your worth, but you’ll also need to fight her past. She’s been through much and she just wants to stop being so naive. She built her walls up so that only those who truly want to try with her will be able to knock them down.
She isn’t afraid of pain or taking another hit for love, but this time it needs to be right. It needs to be true love. This time it needs to be right.
And even though it might not be easy, it will be worthwhile.
Perhaps you’ll need to try harder than you’ve ever tried. Perhaps you’ll want to give up on winning her over at times. But don’t do it. You’ll be glad you stuck by her side later.
Because if you stay and choose to fit, if you choose to be the one to knock her walls down and if you show her you’ll be there even in the darkest days, she’ll also choose to love you. She’ll choose to let go and to stop seeing you through the prism of those who hurt her before.
And once she does that, she’ll accept you the way you are. She’ll choose to love you unconditionally and she’ll choose to make you feel like you’re the only man in this world.
Once she lets go, you’ll see what it means to have a good girl fall for you. You’ll see how it feels to be accepted completely by another human being and you’ll see what it feels to be loved just the way you are. And you’ll never want to lose that.