It’s Time You Stop Justifying Him

Do these sentences sound familiar to you? If they do, how many times have you said them to yourself since you were with this guy? And do you really believe in them because you know they are true or do you believe in them because you want to or because that is the only choice you have?

Because you don’t think you could handle the harsh truth?

When we really love someone, we often refuse to see their true face. This is especially the case with guys we fall in love with. We like to think of them as better than they usually are because it’s easier than handling the fact that we love someone who is not worthy of our love and someone who doesn’t love us back.

It’s the same with you and this man. You love him and you are not afraid to show it. But he never gives you his love back. This guy is never there for you when you need him, you know that you can’t count on him and he’s always too busy for you. He is never interested in your problems and he never puts in any effort to meet your needs. Your boyfriend is a selfish egomaniac who uses you just to feel better about himself. He tells you he is not ready to fully commit to you but he keeps you around anyhow. When you are around him, you always feel like you have to compete for his attention against the entire world. You feel like you have to beg for his love and that makes you feel miserable and humiliated.

And despite all of this, you never judge him. Instead of seeing things as they really are, you keep justifying him. You keep looking for excuses for his behavior. You don’t have the strength to look the truth in the eyes, because you know it would completely break you. So, you choose to lie to everyone else and to yourself because that is the only thing you have left.
Whenever someone asks you where he is or why he is not around, you always find a way to justify him. You don’t admit his real behavior to anyone around you, including yourself.
But, deep down, you know the real, painful truth. Deep down, you know that he doesn’t love you and that he doesn’t deserve you. And you know he never will.

When a man loves you, he will always find time for you. When he thinks of you as important, he’ll make sure that you feel important. When he cares for you, he will care for your needs as well.