Flirting Men: 7 Styles Of Flirting (And How They Use It)

You’ve probably seen a lot of stuff in your dating career. You’ve seen dozens of approaches and you’ve heard thousands of pick-up lines. Some of their flirting techniques made you laugh, some made you fall for them instantly and some made you run the hell away from them.

But, have in mind that all flirting situations were designed long before they were practiced. Men really go to the trouble to make their pickups as effective and perfect as possible.

Believe me, guys know exactly what they’re doing and in which direction they have to go to win you over, also taking into consideration what kind of first impression you leave on them.

Not all tactics work on all women, so they choose from a wide range of flirting styles and hope for the best. Here are just some of them, which you’ve already definitely either seen or experienced:

1. Traditional flirting
As the name says itself, this is like old-school courtship. Basically, women sit and do nothing and wait for the man to come and sweep them off of their feet. A guy has to do all the work here. Let’s face it—it’s so much easier to let them do all the work and wait to be courted. There is no risk whatsoever. This is more and more present today, especially in online dating where women just post a killer picture and their job is done. The rest is up to the men.

2. Polite flirting
Men who play the polite flirting card are very distant from you. They have no interest in engaging any physical contact, at least they don’t show any by keeping things calm. And that’s the whole point of the polite flirt. These guys will stay formal and polite no matter how much they like you. This type of flirting is their thing and they are pretty good at it. It makes you interested in knowing more about what’s hiding underneath that distant and cool exterior.

3. Physical flirting
This is the most obvious way of flirting and almost every guy uses it. It involves, as the name itself indicates, the sense of physical touch. They will ‘accidentally’ touch you on your shoulder while you talk to them, or they tuck your hair behind your ear while they are listening to you. Also, pay attention to the way they greet you when they meet you. They will probably once again find the excuse to touch you—this time with a hug but it depends on which type of hug he used.

4. Playful flirting
This is the most dangerous kind of flirting because it’s full of mixed signals. You can’t actually ever know if the guy flirting with you because he really likes you or he just wants to manipulate you to get what he wants. You can never be too sure, but be careful because most of them use it only to get what they want, which leaves you with a broken heart and him satisfied.

5. ‘The Attention Grabber’ flirting
This type of flirting can be very painful to watch and experience. Imagine a guy who walks into a room full of people and has the need to be the loudest one there and all of that for the purpose of getting all the attention. He will laugh the loudest and be the loudest one, especially if he knows you are watching him. Throw in a couple of looks in your direction and you’ve got yourself a real attention grabber. No, the choice is up to you—depends whether you like that kind of people or you don’t.

6. Subtle flirting
To detect this kind of flirting you’re going to need to really study the body language of the person who is into you. There are a lot of things which can be shown as well as said. And subtle flirting is a perfect way just to show them. It’s a more polite kind of flirting and it’s extremely hard to detect. You have to learn to read men’s body language and their facial expressions if you want to decode the subtle flirting.

7. The sincere flirting
This is flirting on a more advanced level. Men who use sincere flirting are not likely to manipulate you because sincere flirting is all about really getting to know the person you’re flirting with. They will really listen to you with the purpose of finding out your interests and see what it is that you like and don’t like, so they can use it later on.