8 Signs He’s A Toxic Disaster Waiting To Happen

Finding a decent man these days is so hard, and even when we feel like we finally found one, it turns out he’s worse than any man before. He presents himself so perfectly and that makes us ignore all the red flags because he’s just so perfect. Watch out for those kinds of men—those are usually the worst. If you’re suspicious of your man being a romantic vampire—the one that sucks the emotions and life out of you—look for these signs that will tell you that he’s a toxic disaster waiting to happen.

1. He’s just so perfect – at least in his own eyes
Talking about toxic narcissistic behavior, this is the number one sign. In his eyes, he’s the best specimen of his kind, the ultimate gift from the gods. How dare you criticize him? He’s incapable of dealing with suggestions and critics. He will either blow up or dismiss it as complete nonsense. This is not the type of the man you want around for the long run.

2. He overreacts
We all have certain things that make us blow up, but if this is a common thing for him, he’s not that much of a catch. If he loses it when he misses the game because of traffic or if he loses a parking spot, imagine what will happen once things get serious. Imagine how will he react when something really bad happens.

3. You only see each other on his terms
If he’s happy—everything is great. He will look for you when he feels like it, but whenever you need him to be there, he’s just so busy and always running somewhere. He’s selfish with his time, simply because he’s number one on his list, and sorry to break it to you, but you’re probably not even in the top five.

4. He never opens up
It’s hard to open up, we get that. Not everyone walks around like an open book and throws their deepest memories and fears around like confetti. But if he refuses to open up even about smallest things and a certain amount of time has passed, something is up. He’s not interested in opening up because he’s not planning on sticking around.

5. He tells small lies
He got stuck in traffic, so he’s late. The next week he slips up and reveals that he had a drink with coworkers. Small lies are not harmful, but they’re not good either. He’s using them to avoid conflict or to make himself look better in your eyes. But small lies often lead to bigger ones, and no one wants that kind of crap in their lives.

6. You feel you’re competing with his ex
A guy like this will have plenty of ex-girlfriends that left him because they saw his true colors. But that’s not something he will share with you. He will share only parts that are convenient for him to share. Either he will play the victim and thus make you try harder around him or he will straight up compare you to his ex saying: “She let me walk around the place naked”. Well then honey, go back to her place and sit bare-assed on her couch.

7. His words make you feel bad about yourself
He will never openly say that he hates your outfit or the way you did your hair. Instead, he will compliment other women in front of you and try to guilt trip you into changing. That dress would look better if you wore it this way, etc. He’s not doing this because he hates the way you look, he’s doing this because he’s lacking self-esteem and it makes him feel better when he can find any flaw of yours—even if there are none.

8. Too good to be true
He’s just so perfect. He knows what to say to make you feel good and what to do to make you stay when you’re considering leaving him. He’s enjoying the chase—the ‘catch’ not so much. He will drive you crazy, make you addicted to him and suddenly disappear. Ghosting is another one of his specialties.