7 Ways To Know If He’s The Real Deal When Things Are Moving Fast

Usually when things are moving too fast in a new relationship, it’s a huge red flag that you’ll probably end up broken-hearted or used. However, each rule has exceptions and so does this one.

See, there can be situations when you meet a guy and you actually turn out to be everything he’s been looking for, for a long time. This guy who finds in you all he needs won’t be stalking or taking forever to make things happen. When this happens, you might pull back because you might feel scared or have this feeling that something is off and then you’ll miss an amazing shot.

To prevent this from happening, we bring you a few signs in which you can see you have nothing to be scared of and that your guy is the real deal!

HE TEXTS YOU OFTEN
Usually, in a toxic relationship where things move too fast, you won’t get a chance to get so many texts from the guy. He’ll only light up your screen if he needs something from you, so if your guy actually texts you often, if he checks upon you, it means he’s really interested in you and he wants to hear from you. If he’s texting just to make you laugh, if he isn’t afraid to double text or keep two conversations on two different messaging apps, then you have nothing to worry about. He’s good.

HE ISN’T KNOWN FOR TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
You can never hide things such as previous relationships that ended badly. This kind of thing always swims to the surface and if there isn’t a history of having fast moving or toxic relationships, then there is a high probability what you two have is something he takes seriously—regardless if it’s moving fast or not.

HE’S OKAY WITH HAVING YOUR THINGS AT HIS PLACE
When a guy wants just a casual hook-up, he’ll be bugged to see you leaving your things at his place. The only goal he’ll have is to get what he wants or needs from you and get it done. That’s why he’ll want his apartment clear of your things because once he’s done, he’ll want to be sure there isn’t anything you’ll be coming back for. But if your guy is okay with having your things at his place or if he’s more than friendly about making a spot for your toothbrush or giving you some space in his closet, then he isn’t going anywhere and you’re definitely not just a fling.

HE DOESN’T HIDE YOU FROM HIS SOCIAL MEDIA
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We all know that guys aren’t as obsessed as girls with social media. However, if a guy never posts photos of you, that could be a sign he’s hiding you from others. So, if your guy isn’t like this, if he isn’t shy about letting his whole social media know that there is this girl he just met and he has a huge crush on her, this will be your sign that he might be the real deal. It will mean that he’s ready to show the world he found this one girl he likes and that he wants to devote all of his time and space to her. Lucky you!

Also if he doesn’t hide his phone when you’re out and if he lets you use it instantly when you ask for it (not that we encourage you to do this), it means he has nothing on the side and he has nothing to hide.

HIS FRIENDS TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT ALTHOUGH THEY DON’T KNOW YOU THAT WELL
If his friends treat you with disrespect, it means he has had too many girls like you and that they are aware you’re just another fling to him. But in the case they treat you with respect, it will speak volumes about how your guy treats his girls.

Trust when you hear this—if his friends respect you and behave nicely towards you, it is a sign that they’re aware of how much you mean to their friend. It will tell you that he doesn’t usually bring girls to meet his friends and if he did bring you, by doing it he made it crystal clear how special you are in fact.

HE ISN’T RUNNING FROM MEETING FAMILIES
If he accepts to meet your family and you haven’t been dating for too long, it means he actually has an intention to date you for a long time. It’s a clear sign he isn’t planning on going anywhere anytime soon and he’s more than happy to meet them.

Also, if he introduces you to his family, it means you are the closest to or the person he’s been waiting for. It’s like a silent promise he has big plans with you. If you think about it, which guy would introduce you to his family if you’re just a fling? No sane guy would do this. There you go: your proof that you’re the real deal, too.

HE DISCUSSES ‘MOVING TOO FAST’ WITH YOU
If things are moving too fast, you’ll both be aware of it. But in case a guy just wants to use you, he’ll avoid talking about it. On the other hand, the guy who truly wants you won’t have any trouble making your doubts go away. He will actually want to talk about your relationship and he’ll be upfront with plans he has for the two of you. Not only that, but he won’t have a problem with labeling your relationship and calling you his girlfriend.

See, sometimes, things can be simple. So in case you get all this in your relationship even if the things are moving way faster than you are used to, there isn’t a thing you should worry about. Your guy is indeed the real deal!