7 Mistakes Women Usually Make In Relationships
It’s not easy to admit this, being a woman and all, but it’s time to be realistic and admit that even though women are extraordinary creatures, they are not flawless and they make mistakes.
What inspired me to write this article are the mistakes that I made and that I notice my friends keep on repeating. There are still some good men out there but they also have things that are deal-breakers and they also have boundaries that shouldn’t be pushed.
The thing about my friends and me, and I believe a lot of women out there, is that we don’t realize what the problem is until it is too late and our relationships are a thing of the past. It took us a lot of time, a lot of broken hearts and a lot of mutual analyzing to finally admit that sometimes, though not always, we were doing something wrong.
Here is a list of some of the most common mistakes we made, in the hope that it will help some of you to not make the same ones in the future:
1. Creating a dream world
You know, that dream world where everything is ‘perfect’. You expect him to act a certain way like a flawless boyfriend should and then he goes and does something the complete opposite. If you are in a situation like this, sorry to burst your bubble but you are in for a huge disappointment filled with unmet expectations.
First of all, nobody’s perfect, and where would all the fun be if it was like that? There would be no room for you to grow together and get to know one another on a more profound level. If you have a good man by your side, don’t burden him with your great expectations. Build together.
2. Drama queens
Men and women operate on completely different levels. Men rely on logic to guide their way, and they are mostly easy-going and laid back, while women tend to think with their heart and have a totally different sense of logic. That’s not a bad thing but sometimes that leads to huge misunderstandings.
A woman will often make a huge drama about something that a man won’t see as something even worthy of his attention. There are some women who like drama and see balance and tranquility in a relationship as things that are extremely boring. That kind of behavior usually backfires and it stops being amusing really soon.
3. Keep bringing up the past
It’s not fair to throw somebody’s past back in their face. If there was some issue in a relationship and you resolved it, it is useless to bring it up countless times afterward.
Naturally, the past may still hurt and it might be difficult to let go of it but arguing about the same thing or using that same thing against somebody won’t resolve anything. It will just make things worse and tire your partner to the point where he sees no other way but out.
4. Forcing commitment
This happens often because a lot of women have previously determined in their mind what their love life should look like. They have it all figured out, like the exact age when they will move in with their partner, when he will propose, when they will get married and when they will have children. That’s just too far from the reality.
Your partner might not have the same ideas or you might not be moving at the same pace just yet. That doesn’t mean you won’t ever, but sometimes men need more time to get to a certain place. If you see you are never getting there and that you and your partner don’t want the same things now or in the future, you should re-evaluate your relationship.
And if you both want the same things, but he is just not ready yet, forcing commitment won’t make him want it sooner—it will push him away. Give him time and give him space and he will get there; it’s all a matter of reverse psychology.
5. Trying to change him
When you were just starting a relationship, you really thought that man was the embodiment of perfection. Now that things have reached a deeper level, things that didn’t bother you before are so annoying at this point. So, you try and educate him on how he should be and how he should behave.
What most women get wrong here is that he is not a little baby but a grown-ass man who can’t be changed in ways you want him to. You wouldn’t like anybody changing you, now would you? Accept him and love him for who he is and remember that he accepted you.
6. Making him the center of their universe
Doing this just puts a lot of pressure on men and makes a woman look like someone who has no life without him, which men consider to be a major turn-off. Men just don’t go well with clingy. It’s something that suffocates them and makes them lose interest really quickly.
Regardless of the relationship, a woman should have her own life, friends, plans, interests, etc., as well as the life she is creating and building with him.
7. Low on self-love
If a woman doesn’t love herself enough, there is no man in this world who will be able to love her. Men learn how to love and treat you the way you treat yourself. If you don’t value and respect yourself enough, he will soon pick up on that and start to unconsciously abuse it.
Every woman should work on the relationship she has with herself much harder than she works on a relationship she has with a man. Women who invest in themselves are more successful in attracting and keeping the love they deserve.
