5 Strengths You Will Gain By Walking Away From An Abusive Relationship
When you’re in an abusive relationship, believe it or not, there is a good part to it—the lesson and the strength you have when you finally decide to leave. Surviving abuse of any kind turns you into a warrior and it makes you gain so many wonderful things that make you stronger than you ever were before!
1. Letting go
When you let go of your abuse, you learn that letting go is actually the best thing that life has, with all its magic. Letting go means realizing that you can’t change someone and their perspective, it makes you realize that what someone else does or says to you is a reflection of themself more than it’ll ever be a reflection of you. You finally see the line between the things you can and can’t change. By leaving, you see how beautiful letting go can actually be.
2. Rebuilding yourself
The fact that you’re rebuilding yourself from the little pieces that you were broken into isn’t an easy task, right? When you leave an abusive relationship, it means that you believe in a new start, a new life after abuse, something above and beyond the hurt and the pain. I know that you’re still thinking about what you went through and you’ll be thinking about it for a long time, that’s something you need to accept after surviving abuse, but it doesn’t mean that the day won’t come when you’ll start a new life. The moment you realize that you are ready to pick up your pieces and glue them back together, you’ll realize that you’ll grow into an amazing woman, maybe even more amazing than you were before.
3. Self-love
Leaving your abuser means finally finding self-love within. You are choosing your own worth and the love you feel for yourself above someone who didn’t know how to love you properly. Self-love means you need to stop making excuses for his behavior. You are finally able to move on from something that isn’t right for you. With this, you are making enough room in your heart for the one and only person who deserves your love and respect more than anyone else—yourself. We all know that loving ourself is the biggest strength we can achieve and you will achieve it!
4. Peace
You left the biggest burden in your life—your abusive relationship. Now the biggest peacebreaker in your life is gone and you are finally able to seek peace in yourself, in the people around you and in your future. You won’t settle for anything that makes you fall out of balance. You won’t be drained anymore by a person who you thought to be the love of your life and you won’t let anyone abuse you ever again. You’ll be finding peace in your life from day to day and the strength in it is that whenever something happens that throws you out of balance, you’ll know how to get back on track.
5. Hope
Despite the fact that you’re broken to the core and that you are weak right at this point, the strength you’ve gained is hope. You have finally found hope for a new and better life after him. By leaving him, you’ve taken the first step to healing, which is giving yourself hope. Giving yourself hope means being able to believe in a future with someone new and hoping he will accept you the way you are. It means believing in a new you after the abuse and hoping that you will completely heal one day. Hope means that you won’t go back to him and that you are done with your past.
