10 Secretive Signs He Wants You Back (But Won’t Admit It)

We’ve all been there. We’ve all gone through screaming over the phone, sending endless texts in the middle of the night. We’ve all cried ourselves to sleep asking why that happened to us. “Why me dear God?” Who hasn’t said this at least once in a lifetime?

You’ve probably sworn off men and cursed them, saying that you’ll never date anyone again. You convinced yourself that you don’t need that drama and that amount of pain in your life. So, after gallons of ice cream or whatever poison you take when you need comfort, you’ve realized that you will be just perfectly fine by yourself.

You don’t need a man to be happy.

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That was the key sentence in your life that time and you’ve made peace with it. You were perfectly able to go on living your life without him.

Of course, nothing is that simple. Especially when you go through a painful breakup rather quickly and with no bigger consequences, you know that something is bound to happen. You know that things can’t go so smoothly. There is some serious shit cooking that you don’t know anything about yet.

And that is…he wants you back.

Why for God’s sake is he doing that to you? Why does he want you again all of a sudden when he rejected you? He didn’t want you when he had you and now that you’ve moved on and found your peace, after you’ve accepted the fact you’re single and happy about it, he comes crawling back, throwing hidden signs in your face.

What are you supposed to do?

Are you supposed to jump right up and take him back with both arms open wide or are you supposed to tell him to go to hell, that he had his chance and he blew it? Maybe you should first determine reasons why he wants you back and why he doesn’t want to admit it.
First of all, do you know whether he loves you at all or he wants you back because he is lonely, he needs an ego boost or he just wants sex?

To see if the signs that he wants you back but won’t admit it are true, you have to see whether there are any signs he actually loves you or whether he is using you for some other reason.

10 Secretive Signs He Wants You Back (But Won’t Admit It)Signs he really loves you:

1. The way he looks at you
There is no one there for him but you. If you enter a room full of people, his eyes will be on you and only you. When he looks at you, he opens his heart entirely and his eyes are showing how vulnerable he actually is.

2. He knows what is important to you
He remembers things he knows are important to you. Although you have broken up, he defies the no-contact rule and he keeps texting you and calling you from time to time, usually when you have something important he already knows about. So, no matter that you broke up, he is still your support in things that are important to you.

3. He asks for your opinion
Once again, even after you’ve broken up, he still asks you for your opinion. He wants you to give him advice on things he doesn’t know how to deal with. He wouldn’t ask you any of this, and he wouldn’t even contact you if he still doesn’t love you.

4. He is trying to make you laugh
Even after all this time, you still get a text now and then with something funny that happened to him or a joke. So, you see, this means you’re still on his mind and he probably still has some strong feelings for you.

5. He wants only the best for you
Maybe this is the main reason why he broke up with you in the first place. Maybe he feels he isn’t good enough for you and since he loves you that much, he let you go because he only wants what’s the best for you. He is not a manipulative asshole who only wants what’s the best for him. Maybe he loves you truly, madly, deeply, so he let you go and now he wants you back but won’t admit it.

If he shows some of these signs, you can be sure that he still loves you and wants you back but won’t admit it. He is probably ashamed that he let you go in the first place. He probably knows that he made a mistake and thinks that there is no chance in hell you’ll take him back. So, let’s see what’s really at stake, does he really wants you back?

10 Secretive Signs He Wants You Back (But Won’t Admit It)Signs he wants you back but won’t admit it.

1. He’s trying to forget you too fast
No one can get over a breakup in just the matter of days. That’s actually a long and painful process. Even if he didn’t love you, it wouldn’t be that easy to just move on at the speed of light. No, it’s just a confirmation that he had some strong feelings for you and he wants to pass them as soon as possible.

Love is a very complicated thing. Relationships are very complicated things. You can’t just break up and hope the pain will go away in seconds like you ripped off a bandage because it won’t. Things don’t work that way. You have to cry, you have to hate your life for a while and then you have to finally accept it. So, if you see him partying and dating other women and yelling that he’s fine and over you, he is not. He is desperate and actually is dealing with the fact that he made a huge mistake.

2. He is still in touch with your family
Okay, we all know that you choose your partner, but you don’t choose their family. Family comes along and if you love that person, you have to accept their family and learn to love them no matter what. Now, some are lucky enough to land on super cool parents-in-law, but some are not.

If your ex is still in contact with your family and he doesn’t have to be, that’s an obvious sign he still likes you and wants you back, although it seems that he won’t admit it for some reason.

3. He asks your mutual friends about you
If you have been in a relationship that has lasted longer, you’ve probably had some mutual friends or his friends that became yours and your friends that became his. Now, these friends are not in a comfortable situation. Usually, they have to take sides, but there are some who stay in the middle, no matter what.

These friends are the most common targets of exes who want to get back to the person they broke up with. He will probably ask about you, what you’ve been up to or are you seeing anyone. He’ll show a huge interest in your life because he regrets he is no longer a part of it and he wants you back, badly.

4. He sends you texts
10 Secretive Signs He Wants You Back (But Won’t Admit It)He sends you text messages out of the blue. He sends you texts to check up on you, to see if you are okay like he wants to be friends with you, despite the fact you are no longer in a relationship. He doesn’t want to pressure you into talking with him, so he knows exactly the right dose of texts to send, the right amount of not to be too pushy but to keep himself in the back of your mind.

Actually, what he wants is to see how you’re doing—are you miserable as he is and if he senses it, he will try to take you back because, obviously, he has made a huge mistake, but won’t admit it. He’s ashamed for letting go a perfect girl like you.

5. He talks about your relationship
He keeps mentioning the good old days and how much fun you’ve had. The truth is, most of us remember only the good times after we break up with someone, especially after some time has passed. But, he is fixated on the good times you’ve had on purpose with the intention of luring you back to those nice memories.

But, you know that it takes time to forget what has happened to you. It takes time to emotionally heal and move past all the bad things that have happened to you, and so does he. So, he will strategically wait for some time and then come back and talk about happy memories. If you still have feelings for him, give him another chance and a chance to explain himself because he’s obviously still crazy in love with you.

6. He’s changing for the better
You can’t change anyone and that’s a fact. I mean you can’t change their core, who they really are deep inside, but you can change the behaviors, reactions, and actions someone takes. You can show them their behavior is not okay. You can show them their mistakes and help them work on them. The point is, the only thing you can do is to show them where they went wrong and be their support if they want to make things right.

While you were dating, you wanted to succeed in that, but he wouldn’t listen. He thought nothing was wrong with him. But, now he has probably realized that you were right and he wants to change and grow. He wants to learn from his mistakes and improve his behavior. You can see that clearly from the way he behaves now. That means he took your words seriously and wants to improve himself and get you back, but he won’t admit it.

7. He drunk dials you
A drunk mind speaks a sober heart. That is the absolute truth. When you are under the influence of alcohol, your rational mind takes a break and all the things and feelings you’re hiding inside come out to play big time. You don’t care at all about the consequences of your words and actions and you’ll say pretty much everything that is in your heart and soul.
So, if he drunk dials you saying he loves you and wants you back, it’s probably because he really does. But, this can also be a tricky situation because he might just want to have sex with you. So, how can you actually know which one of these two situations is true? Well, if he calls you back in the morning and shamefully apologizes, then you know he was serious, but if you don’t get a call back then you know he only needed you for one thing—sex.

10 Secretive Signs He Wants You Back (But Won’t Admit It)

8. He’s active on social media
He is following you and liking your pictures, but not in a creepy way, in a good and friendly kind of way, or he is doing something completely the opposite, and that is posting too many photos of himself having a good time. The first scenario is his calm and rational way of showing he likes you. If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t have any interest in your photos or your social media profiles. The second scenario is his irrational and strange way of coping with the pain of losing you.

He is posting photos of him partying heavily and hanging out with different women. This is his way of trying to make you jealous and his cry for help because he has realized he has lost something he shouldn’t have—you.

9. He mentions your break up
Maybe he does it out of the blue or he has come up with a whole introductory scenario that will lead to talking about why you broke up. Either way, he clearly has some unresolved issues he would like to take care of. I mean, why you would bring up something that delicate and painful like a breakup if you don’t want to talk about it and try to solve it, or just get closure?

If he brings up the breakup talk, it’s most probably because he wants to resolve it although getting closure is equally possible. The best way you can find out which one of the two is at stake is to let the conversation go in the direction he wants it to go. If he expresses regret and sorrow, it means he wants you back, but if he just states the fact and seeks answers, he just wants closure.

10. He wants you to be friends
After all, no matter what happens between you two, he will do anything to keep his friendship with you. He will try with everything he’s got to keep you in his life even if that means he’ll suffer
in silence because he loves you but can’t take you back.

Think about it. Who would like to stay friends with their ex? Who would like a constant reminder that you two didn’t get along and all you have behind you is a failed relationship? Only the guy who wants you back but won’t admit it.