15 Signs Of An Emotionally Unavailable Woman

It is so difficult being a woman, don’t you think? You are constantly having some inner battles and you don’t know how you feel sometimes.

When I just think about my PMS and that constant feeling of sadness and depression, OMG it sucks! And not to mention all that drama when I fight with my boyfriend and then go to my friend’s house to cry on her shoulder, saying that I will never have a boyfriend in my life.

It is true that guys have so many problems in relationships with women because we are so complex. There is that saying that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. I think this is true because we definitely don’t think in the same way and we don’t express our feelings in the same way either. Sometimes it is just that obvious that we come from two different planets.

When we are talking about emotions, I can bet that women have PhD’s in that field. Women are known to be emotional and all sweet and cute while guys, on the other hand, always pretend to be alpha males. That’s the way it goes.

But (and there is always a but…) have you ever wondered what it feels like to be an emotionally unavailable woman? Interesting question, right? And a difficult one, I must admit. Is it even possible to be a completely unemotional woman? What kind of shit needs to happen in your life to be all numb regarding emotions?

One thing is for sure—emotionally unavailable women have definitely been through so much in their lives and there are valid reasons they feel like that. A woman like this has been through so much shit you will never be able to imagine. She has hit rock bottom but all those bad things that happened to her made her stronger and transformed her into the person she is now. Also, she won’t put up with any kind of crap because she knows people very well and she will never let anyone to treat her in a way she doesn’t deserve.

If you are not quite sure about the signs of an emotionally unavailable woman, I suggest you read further. I am bringing you some of the most obvious signs that every emotionally unavailable woman shows. So let’s start, but please be patient because the list is fucking long!

1. She is not interested in getting to know you
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With or without you, she will feel the same. So what’s the point of being with her? If she didn’t have you meet her friends and family and didn’t insist on meeting yours then I have to disappoint you by saying the two of you are a FAIL.

There are a lot of fish in the sea but you had such bad luck that you hooked up with one that is emotionally unavailable. And dude, that sucks! Before you fall in love like crazy, leave her because she is only good for herself and you will never truly be happy with her! If you really think that you can make a future with her, make sure that the two of you make some relationship rules at the beginning so you don’t get irritated by your partner’s behavior. Admit to yourself that she doesn’t need a man to complete her and that no matter what happens in her life, she will be fine on her own.

2. She is casual about relationships
You all probably know that women are control freaks when it comes to romance and relationships. But with this kind of thing, women are the opposite. I would say that she behaves like a guy. She has sex with you and then vanishes for a couple of days. If you try to get her on her cell phone, you can be certain she won’t be available. If you try to text her, she will never text you back and if you try to find her at her home, she won’t be there. You need to understand that she loves her freedom the most in the world and if you just try to catch her, she will run and she will never look back.

Dude, you should understand that she is all fucked up and honestly speaking, she doesn’t know what to expect from her life. It is much better to let her go to find her meaning of life. If you are meant to be, she will come back to you, and that time she will be the best version of herself!

3. She is available if she wants to be
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Caring about your feelings is not her cup of tea. Maybe that I-don’t-give-a-damn-about-you attitude is what makes you feel so attracted to her or she does that for a reason. Perhaps she is a control freak and she wants to have you only when that is convenient for her. Maybe she has been hurt in the past and now she doesn’t want to get attached so easily. If you are recognizing these signs, you can bet that your girlfriend is an emotionally unavailable woman. And I must admit that a woman like that is not easy to handle.

If you really love her, tell her how you honestly feel. Tell her that she is hurting you with the way she behaves and that’s not something you were expecting from love. If your emotionally unstable one loves you, she will understand you and try to improve. In case she acts like a drama queen, just finish your glass of wine and leave!

4. She asks for attention all the time
If you are looking at your best friend while talking about something, she will use all the possible and impossible tricks for you to pay attention to her. What is going on is that she is not satisfied if she is not the center of attention. And that’s not fair to other people. She acts like a spoiled child and you can be sure that she is not capable of love. She thinks it is just not fair that you don’t look at her all the time you are talking about something, even if there are some other people sitting next to you.

To be emotionally unavailable is her choice. And no matter how much you want to change her, you won’t be able to do that because she doesn’t want to be changed. She will do that when she is ready so don’t be pushy because you will lose her if you do that.

So don’t bother yourself with trying to explain things to her. If she cares enough for you, she will do everything to keep you by her side. If she doesn’t love you, it is better to end that relationship ASAP.

5. She doesn’t like any type of commitment
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You two are walking down the street and you see some kids and you just tell her how it would be great to have your own kids and she totally freaks out. Sound familiar? You can be sure that she is an emotionally unavailable woman because usually, women are known to love kids and relationships. Just bear in mind that the two of you don’t have the same outlook on life and that it will be extremely hard for you to find any middle ground. If her first reaction is like this, you can be sure that a woman like her is not wife material and that you will suffer a lot if you try to date her.

The bottom line is that she is still not ready for any kind of commitment and so that is going to have to wait a little bit. If you want, you can wait for that to happen but be aware of the fact that it can take ages for her to release her feelings. So I ask you: Is she worth the wait?

6. She is dominant
Some guys really like dominant women but if you feel like a fool every day because she makes all the life decisions instead of you, you will eventually explode. So please, don’t let that happen. Be aware of the fact that she is emotionally cold and doesn’t have feelings for others. She will always want to be the one who rules everything and who makes all the important decisions, not even asking you if you are okay with them. Do you know why she does that? Because she doesn’t know another way to handle things and this is the best she can do.

You should wonder why she is with you in the first place. To me, it looks like a joke; first she wants you and then she totally refuses you. A little bit cold and a little bit hot. If you like that, then it is okay, but if not, you should have a serious conversation with her about your future. I know some guys are tolerant but dude, this is extraordinary selfish!

7. She will make you feel guilty about everything
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Emotionally unavailable women don’t have common sense. Period. Just think about it. If she will blame you for all the world’s problems, then what is the point of being with her? You should feel nice and comfortable in a relationship, right? But if you feel shitty and bad, there is no need to be with her anymore because apparently she doesn’t give you all that you need. And I know that you only want love, affection and a person who will love you and be with you until you die.

If you don’t get what you want, then you will just have to find it in different places. There are so many girls out there who are craving some love and your only task is to dig deeper to find one. And when you find the one, you will see what it really feels to love someone and to receive all the love and affection that you needed so badly. Only then you will be a truly happy person.

8. She never relies on you
In my point of view, a man and a woman should be a team in a relationship. If she wants to be independent, that is okay but only to some extent. If she never asks you for your opinion, that is not a good sign; a woman in love will always ask for the approval of her loved one. She will show her partner that she loves him by asking him about his ideas that might help her in her private or business life.

Only an emotionally unavailable one will act independently all the time. Trust me, she is not good material for a long-term relationship and you should tell her that. If she gets offended, don’t bother with that because she made you feel like a piece of shit so many times, so why would you care about her feelings now? Finish with her once and for all because even if you tried to help her to fix herself, she didn’t do that. Instead, she continued to behave like she runs the world and like you have to listen to all that she says. And that is not what real love and relationships should look like.

Remember, what goes around, comes around.

9. She wants it all
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And she wants it now! I know she sounds like a spoiled child, but that’s the way emotionally broken women act. I really admire all the guys out there who can live with a person like this. Hey man, you need to be so phlegmatic if you don’t want her words to make you feel bad. Women like this don’t care about other people’s emotions so much. They think all people are just like them—emotionally broken. They don’t think that there are any people who are craving love and affection and that feeling to her is completely normal. But the most important thing is that something like that is not normal to you.

Never let anyone treat you like this because this is not love. This is brutalization and you will accept this only if you are 50 shades fucked up like Mr. Grey.

10. Her career is more important than you
I know a career is very important to all of us but we should distinguish between our private and business lives. It is a fact that money makes the world go round but that shouldn’t be a priority for her. It means your life is less important than her business goals and her clients. Tell her that you two should each take some time for your business life but on the other hand, you should spend some time taking care of things that happen in your love life. Explain to her that relationships are all about love and support and that you can’t give her all that if she doesn’t want to repay you with the same.

Do you really want to share your bed with a woman like that? Nope! I didn’t think so! We all deserve to be pampered in relationships and you will not get this if you date an emotionally unavailable woman. So let her go—the sooner, the better!

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11. She expresses love in strange ways
The fact is she does feel things but when it comes to expressing her feelings, she becomes a total idiot. If you feel bad about it, you can just imagine how it feels for her. Some women do this on purpose in order to make guys respect them.

I would say that this is a proven tactic for a happy relationship. On the other hand, emotionally unavailable women can’t affect the way they feel. I mean, they can pretend but everything has its expiration date. With her, you will always feel a little bit awkward and you will never know if she is pretending to be happy with you or she really is.

12. She prefers listening
If you caught yourself with a woman who tends to listen more than to speak, you can be sure she is emotionally broken. For some reason, she feels better when you are the one who is talking. Sometimes she wants to hear your opinion, so talk while you can because this sort of woman is very moody. It means she will let you talk one moment and the next, she will say that she has a headache and will just leave. That is her, though, so you can accept all her imperfections if you want or just leave her instead. Your choice.

13. She thinks you are not worth being with her
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Even if you act crazy by buying her expensive gifts, making romantic dinners and wearing your heart on your sleeve all the time, for her that’s not enough. She would object to every guy who approached her, though, and that’s a fact.

It means you can work your ass off but she still won’t be pleased. I just wonder why emotionally unavailable women have this kind of opinion. Is it something in their genes or have they suffered a trauma during their childhood? Because, honestly speaking, I can’t find any other valid reason for that kind of behavior. You should know that no matter how much you try, you will never be enough for her.

A woman like this will keep being unavailable until she resolves the issues inside herself. It is not about you—it is about her and no, this is not a cliché. This is a fact, so move on from that toxic relationship and stay single until you find the one who really deserves you!

14. She is a perfectionist
Let’s be honest, I am also a perfectionist but I am not as cold as an ice cube. I have feelings for others and sometimes their happiness is more important to me than my own. The catch is, this is one of the common signs of an emotionally unavailable woman.

If you want to be her partner, you will probably have to be a freaking rocket scientist. These women always aim high and they never stay in a relationship with an average guy. She is the kind of a woman who wants to use all of her potential and use life as best as she can. She knows what she wants from her life and she won’t accept anything less than that! So if you think that you are strong enough for her, just bring it on and make the first move.

15. She is constantly angry
It is okay when people are angry for some reason, but she doesn’t have any reason to feel that way. She will behave very badly to waiters and people who do all those blue-collar jobs. This is also a sign that you are dating a woman who is emotionally abusive. If you keep being in a relationship with her, you can be positive that you won’t be happy.

So just stop for a second and ask yourself: “Do I really need this kind of woman in my life?” I am sure you will figure it out very shortly that no matter how much you love her, she is definitely not worth being a part of your life. You will see that in a life with her, you will never get as much as you give and that no matter how much you try, she will never be satisfied.

The bottom line is that emotionally unavailable women are very difficult to live with. If she is like that at the beginning of your relationship, you can just imagine how brutal she will be after 10 years of marriage. She could transform into something that you would never want to see in your wildest dreams and to be honest, it won’t be something that you will like. If you notice some of these signs, think twice before you put a ring on it!!