This Is How You Choose Your Partner Wisely
When we think about romance, we always think about a significant other who will be beautiful on the inside and out, someone who will be there for us at all times, with the rare capacity to make things happen. We bump into a lot of different people who hurt us and we’re done with getting hurt and we’re finally ready to receive what we deserve and we want to commit. This is the point where it gets tricky to not fall for an asshole who will fill our lives with misery. Don’t worry, it’ll be extremely easy if you follow these steps:
1. Listen
People will usually tell you right away who they are and it’s up to you to listen. If someone tells you that they get jealous easily or that they’re a huge attention whore, listen to them! If you don’t want an attention whore on your back, then don’t even start a relationship with them hoping that it’ll change. Their looks or their affection toward you won’t change the fact that you two aren’t compatible in any way.
2. Don’t settle because of fear
People very often choose a partner or stay in an unhealthy relationship out of some kind of fear. They tend to stick around for years being unhappy, even when one simple act of breaking up can fix that. So, the fear of being alone isn’t worth staying around in that relationship, because it’s much better to be alone than it is to settle for someone who isn’t good for us.
3. Throw away your expectations
Unmet expectations are the death of every relationship. Don’t make a checklist for everything you want to see in a partner or have in a relationship. You might not even know what is actually good for you and that new someone could teach you something new that was better than anything you ever expected. So, throw away your checklists and give him a chance to blow you off your feet. Have standards, know your worth and know what you deserve.
4. Be yourself
Show them who you are. Embrace all your imperfections and let them know that you are human, too. Women these days tend to think that they need to be perfect in order for them to be desirable, but that isn’t really the truth. You need to be yourself. There will come someone who will look at you in the morning with your hair undone and he will love you more than anyone else. Also, if you act like you’re someone you’re not, sooner or later your partner will find out and that won’t be good for either of you.
5. Search for qualities
Search for qualities in a man who approaches you, qualities that can help you see if he’s really the one. Some of those qualities are emotional support, empathy, integrity and others that make you an awesome partner in a loving, long-term relationship. You, for sure, want someone who is loving and caring rather than someone who is cold.
6. Connection
Can you connect with him emotionally? Spiritually? Mentally? You will feel a connection with him right away and you will see that no one else has ever understood you quite as well as he does. This connection goes both ways. You need to understand him as much as he understands you. This is where the relationship becomes magical and takes love to a whole new level.
7. Don’t give out chances
Don’t keep waiting for someone to change when it’s obvious they won’t. Don’t sit around waiting for something to change, but rather eliminate anything from your life that makes you feel uncomfortable or unloved. Be clear about what you will and won’t accept in a relationship. Once you know those things, you will also know at what point you’re going to break the relationship up.
8. Have fun and enjoy yourself
You will be much happier with yourself if you enjoy yourself and have fun. This way, you will create the right space to attract the right, happy and valuable people into your life, andyou will know what you want and what is right for you. Love yourself for who you are and others will love you as well.
