7 Tips On How To End Your Dysfunctional Relationship

We’ve all been there at one point or another in our life, where we have realized that the relationship we’re in at that moment doesn’t bring us anything but pain, it’s dysfunctional and we need to break up. It’s not like we didn’t try to make it work, we did everything we could to save the relationship, but all of our energy and efforts had gone to waste. Why? Because apparently, we’re the only ones trying and our partner doesn’t really give a damn. So, let’s go and end this, for the sake of our broken heart and for the sake of our happiness:

1. Make a plan
OK. You’ve decided that you want to break up, so why not make a strict plan? Of course, you can’t really know what they are going to say or do, but keep in mind all the things you want to tell your partner at that point and get ready to keep calm the entire time. You won’t get anything out of hysterically screaming at each other. That’s why it’s important to know that, whatever he says or does, you’re going to stay calm and reserved.

2. Commit to your decision
Don’t let him convince you that he’s going to change or that you’re wrong for doing this. You tried far too many times to make things work out, to give it all a chance and you were just waiting for things to change, but it simply doesn’t work anymore. You must know that it was not your fault. You did what you could and it simply wasn’t enough. Don’t let him change your mind with sentences like, ”Are you really ready to throw away everything we had?” because if you weren’t ready, you wouldn’t have got to this point, right?

3. Find support in family and friends
Your friends and family members will give you all the right support you need, because at tough times it’s not easy to be alone. Also, why would you even want to handle anything alone? You need a support system and your friends can provide one. It’s all about making you feel better now, so if you want to cry (even though you’ve made the right decision), go and cry on your friend’s shoulder. It’s the least they can do for you now that you are so vulnerable.

4. Don’t try to be friends
There will probably be hurt feelings and a lot of bad emotions combined with the break-up, so that’ll just be very toxic for your heart and mind. You don’t need someone who will throw everything in your face or someone who will be around to torture you every time you meet someone new. I know that they have been a huge part of your life, but it’s not worth the pain that follows if you continue to keep him in your life.

5. Block him on social media
This one goes together with the last tip. So, just get him totally out of your system. Block him on Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram. Everywhere! Eliminate any chance there is for you to see his face and feel heartache because of it. It’s not just about that, but also that you will feel much better even knowing that you can now relax without the need to stalk his profile.

6. Find a way to keep your mind off of what happened
What I’m trying to say is: fill the void. Find something that makes you happy and fulfilled, something that will break the monotony of everyday life and where you can just have fun. Dedicate all your time and energy into your hobbies and heal. Heal all the broken wounds. It’ll just make you stronger.

7. Don’t start a new relationship right away
Well, you might be asking yourself how this goes together with the break-up of your past relationship. However, you will try to find your previous partner in your future one and that can only cause damage to the both of you. If you didn’t get over the previous break-up and you are still mourning for your past relationship, it will bring you nothing good. So sit for a while and give yourself time to heal properly. You deserve it, after all.