10 Signs He’s Holding You Back From The Future You Deserve
A relationship is all about compromises and working on getting better together. The ideal relationship would be the one where both partners are focused on each other’s well-being and are supportive of each other. They have each other’s back and even if failure happens, they are what pushes you to move forward and keep on fighting.
But unfortunately, there are relationships where one partner is sabotaging the other one. Sometimes it happens unconsciously, sometimes it’s because of low self-esteem or jealousy. Whatever the reason is, that’s not the kind of relationship you need in your life. Is your partner holding you back from the future you deserve? Here is the list of signs that he actually is and that it’s time for you to consider leaving that toxic relationship so you can achieve your own goals and happiness.
1. He interferes in your decision-making
Whatever the decision is, he has something to say. And even if it’s concerning only you, he knows better and there is no way you can make that decision without him. Sometimes, the only way to decide what’s best for us is to do it alone. And if he’s not pushing you to your limits and out of your comfort zone but is instead keeping you in the same place because that’s, “What you’re best at,” is he even supportive at all? Does he even believe in you in the first place?
2. He encourages you to procrastinate
When you don’t feel like doing something and you’re procrastinating, he always joins you and encourages you to procrastinate. He could be in love and hates seeing you struggling but without struggle there is no success. Taking breaks is just fine but taking one-week long breaks is a one-way ticket to failure. And if he decides to support you when you’re procrastinating instead of supporting you when you’re working your ass off, he has got it all wrong!
3. You can feel jealousy when you accomplish something
There was not one situation where you accomplished something and he was genuinely happy for you. You can feel that he is jealous, so he tries to belittle your success or bring you down with dark prophecies of the future. It’s never just a celebration to him, he has to bring you down in some way just so he can feel better about himself.
4. His pessimism is bringing you down also
If he’s stuck in one place, he will make you feel bad about moving forward. His constant complaining and fear of being rejected or failing are affecting you too. If you have a really important and huge challenge ahead, his pessimism will get into your head and keep you from succeeding. This could be something he’s doing unconsciously but it still doesn’t mean that it’s okay that he does it. If he keeps on doing it after you told him that it affects you, then he’s not interested enough to change for you. And you shouldn’t be interested in keeping him in your life either.
5. He belittles your success
It’s incredibly hard to keep your motivation up when the person who is supposed to be there for you is the person who belittles your success. No matter how hard you try and how well you succeed, he can always do it better. If he felt like it, he could do your job with one finger. Yeah right. Ditch him as soon as you can, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life!
6. He guilt-trips you into quitting
He’s always so worried that you will leave him behind once you achieve success, so you lower your efforts to ease him and make him feel better. While compromises are important in a relationship, as is taking care of each other’s feelings, in this case, you should never compromise. In this case, it’s about you giving up on your dreams so he can be happy. What kind of a man wants to hold his woman in place just because it makes him feel better?
7. He never supports you
He straight-up tells you to give up, because there is no way you can make it. Not because you’re not capable of doing it but because the competition are too good and too skillful. Imagine how far you would go if you listened to him all the time? You would forever be stuck in the same place, fighting windmills over and over again. It’s time for you to listen to your gut and stop listening to him.
8. He acts too needy
It’s hard to focus on yourself and take care of your dreams and needs if you’re constantly taking care of someone else. And if he’s always demanding your attention when you’re trying to work on something important for him, he’s not interested in seeing you succeed. If he’s acting like a baby, then you need to let his immature ass go, because you weren’t born to be his mama. You have your own battles to fight, instead of taking care of a grown-ass man.
9. When you need him, he’s never there
When you need him to give you a hand and support, he has something else to do. When you need him to celebrate your success with you, he’s too busy pitying himself to be there for you. But the moment he needs something from you, he demands your attention and time and gets angry if you don’t give them to him immediately. That’s not a healthy relationship to be in. Love is about supporting each other, not just one person doing it.
10. He accuses you of changing
He accuses you of always being at work and always having something to do, while he’s all alone waiting for you. And even if you explained that this is just temporary until you get where you want to be, he’s still acting like a brat, accusing you of not caring about him and putting all of your focus on your career. Well, you can’t spread love on bread and eat it. We need a job to have money and we need money to live. If he’s not supporting you to pursue your career and dreams, he doesn’t really love you. He loves himself too much to put his little ego aside and watch his woman slay!
