7 Important Lessons My Last Break-Up Taught Me
In this hurricane of emotions and thoughts, we forget that break-ups have something really important hidden between all the moments of pain: lessons. They can teach us so much important stuff that we can overlook them or simply fail to see them. After a certain amount of time, you start to realize that not everything bad comes with break-ups. My last break-up was the most painful yet, it was after a four year-long relationship with a man I really loved and appreciated and we simply grew apart. By ‘grew apart’, I mean that he left me because of another woman. What sounds like a bad romantic comedy was actually reality for me, a reality that broke me to pieces. But I got up and I realized some things.
1. Life goes on
As brutal as it sounds, life goes on. Time won’t wait for anyone and we need to get our sh*t together and move on. People will deceive us but that doesn’t mean that we need to sit around waiting for the world to change itself. Acknowledge what happened and move on. It hurts now but in a couple of months, you’ll be fine!
2. I’m stronger than I think
I’ve always thought of myself as someone very fragile and gentle. But considering what happened to me, I know I have all the strength that’s needed to throw the world off its axis! OK, that might sound a bit far-fetched but look at me! I’m doing great even without the man I thought was my whole life. I know it burns from time to time but I’m still alive. I survived.
3. I can live without anyone
You know that time when you had a best friend and you thought that you couldn’t live without them but they took away your boyfriend and you parted ways? Look at yourself. You’re still alive. This is what happened with my ex; I thought I could never live without him and I’m still alive. What does that tell us? We truly, only need ourself.
4. A man who loves me will never make me question him
I thought that we were meant to be together forever. The moment I started to question our relationship came way too late. He had been cheating on me for quite some time and I was too blind to see that. So I’ve learned that the moment you start questioning someone, you’re probably right about your assumptions.
5. I deserve the world
It’s not selfish to think that we deserve better. We deserve the world! Every woman out there deserves to be loved and treated with respect and to never settle for anything less than that! It’s a misconception that saying, “I deserve better,” is a selfish statement as it’s actually self-love. I love myself enough to go for what I want and deserve.
6. I am growing
A break-up won’t bring you down. I mean, it will, so for a certain period of time you’ll feel abandoned and you will hate yourself. But after you’ve spent some quality time with yourself thinking everything through, you’ll realize that you have nothing to lose if you go out into the world and start doing something you love. A break-up can be an amazing opportunity to occupy your mind with new stuff. That’s what I did! I caught up on some lost hobbies and I felt how my mind was expanding. The heartbreak didn’t pull me down but rather it lifted me up!
7. I will be able to love again
Now, it might seem impossible but I know that the time will come when I will be able to love again. The break-up is too fresh at the moment and I can’t seem to find my way out of this. So I’m giving myself time to heal properly before I go out into the dating world. All I want to remember from now on is that things will get better and my heart will be able to love again.
