14 Warning Signs Of Clingy Men (And How To Avoid Them)

Same as guys who don’t like clingy women, we don’t like clingy men. Knowing what to look for in their behavior can help you to avoid them before things get messy. And trust me, they can really get messy. Clingy men, in the beginning, seem really cute and attentive, but with time it becomes annoying. Sometimes it can even become dangerous, once they face rejection and turn into stalking mode.

Here are the biggest warning signs that you’re dealing with a clingy man in order for you to avoid him more easily.

1. He wants to know EVERYTHING about you
It’s natural to want to get to know someone we’re interested in but there are certain things that are not meant for the first dates or the early stages of a relationship, things that require trust and time. This includes past romantic partners, our history or our deepest fears and memories. But he will keep on asking questions, no matter how many times you try to change the subject or dismiss them. He just NEEDS to know everything about you, because you’re so ‘special’ to him.

2. He texts you the moment you give him your number
We all know that there is an unwritten rule not to text someone the moment they give us their number, in order not to appear needy or clingy. You should keep it easy and chill. But he’s completely oblivious to that rule or the way he may come across. He texts you the moment you give him your number and the texts just keep on coming.

3. He’s blowing up your phone—all the time
He has no problem with sending multiple unanswered texts and the only time he’s not blowing up your phone is the time you spend together. But the moment you separate, the blowing up continues.

4. He wants to know what you’re doing all the time
It seems like you’re the only thing that’s on his mind. It feels like you’re his hobby, job and biggest passion, he just needs to know where you are and what you’re doing. He will bomb you with questions all throughout the day: “How are you feeling? What you’re doing now? Is it hard? When will you finish?”

5. His friends are basically non-existent
He always has time for you and it seems like he has no other friends. He mentions his co-workers from time to time and some old childhood friends, but it feels like you’re the only person in his life. When a guy is attentive, he will make time for you, but will let you know that there are other people in his life. His friends and family will still be his priorities, even when you make it official. But a clingy guy will ignore them the moment he has your attention.

6. He’s always texting first
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There’s nothing wrong with texting first, but sometimes you should be chased instead of being the chaser all the time. But he has no problem in texting first, it’s almost as if he’s afraid that you won’t text him unless he does it first.

7. No interests of his own
This one truly is a red flag in the beginnings of a relationship, no matter what kind of man you’re dealing with. Being with a man who has no interests of his own means you becoming his only interest, thus leading to a possessive and controlling relationship. If you catch yourself babbling on and on about things you enjoy doing, while he just says that he’s not really interested in anything but his work, it’s time to pay attention to other signs in his behavior.

8. He’s already planning on multiple dates—when you only just had one
He is in such a rush, so excited about being with you, that he already planned your next dates, while you’re not even sure if he’s the one you should’ve gone with on a first one. Clingy men tend to rush things, whether it’s when being intimate, dating or becoming exclusive. In his mind, you’re everything he needs.

9. He’s all over your social media
He followed you on all of your social media accounts the same day he met you. He went so deep in your feed that he liked photos you even forgot were there. You know that no matter what you publish, he’ll text you in no time and comment on your post. It’s like you’ve got yourself your own creepy stalker fan.

10. He friended all of your friends right away
If this is not a red flag, then I don’t know what is. Most men will add your friends on social media only once you’re in a serious committed relationship and not even then will all of them do it. This is just a huge sign that he’s way beyond clingy.

11. He needs constant reassuring
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No matter what it is, he needs to hear you say it hundreds of times. He needs to know that he’s not boring to you, that you still care about him, that you still want to go on a date with him. He needs you, not to boost his ego, but to build it up from scratch.

12. He’s perfectly fine with being one of the girls
There are days when we need to spend some time alone, when we need to spend some time with our significant other and there are days when we need to spend the time with our girls. We need that time to let go of all of the negativity, to enjoy ourselves and celebrate the fact that we’re amazing friends. But if he has no problem with messing up that night for you, when he practically invites himself to be with you, you got yourself a clinger. He will make you feel bad about not inviting him with you, so that you will eventually give in and let him ruin the night for you.

13. You can tell he’s holding back his opinion
When you’re discussing certain issues or hypothetical situations, you can tell that he’s holding back his opinion, that he’s waiting for you to speak your mind, so he can agree with whatever you said. It’s not because he has no opinions of his own, it’s because he wants to show you that you two are a perfect match, he wants to keep you around for as long as he can.

14. He wants to be exclusive—ike, now
Regardless of the fact that you two just met each other, he’s ready to be exclusive and tries to convince you into thinking that you’re perfectly suited. A desperate man needs a woman by his side and will do anything to keep her there. If you feel like you’re trapped and things are moving too fast, don’t hesitate to leave such a relationship. It won’t get any better, trust me.