Why Do You Keep Texting Me If You’re Not Into Me?

Men sometimes make some moves that are not that easy to explain. Texting you, even though they said or showed in some way that they are not interested, falls into that category.

Male and female relationships are never easy. Vague texting can make things even more complicated.

Most of us tend to overanalyze the texts we get from the man we like. We tend to make them more relevant than they really are. Not necessary, really since most guys bluntly say what they mean.

However, there are texting situations that can be misused by men. They appear not to be interested, or they even say they are not interested, but they keep texting you. Men playing with ambiguous texts can really drive a girl nuts.

That’s why we give you some reasons why they might keep texting you even though they are not into you:

1. They want to boost their egos.
Men are prone to seek approval from their friends. So, you might just be one of those women that make him look good in front of his friends.

It is also related to their self-esteem—it might not be that high so they search for ways they can improve the image they have of themselves.

He wants to be such a bad ass that he can have any girl he wants. Or he wants his friends to think that. Such a show-off!

That’s why he is keeping you as a souvenir. And you don’t wanna collect dust. Trust me.

2. You are his backup plan.
If things with another girl don’t work out, you are his next option. Or one of his next options.

Signs of this might be that he is only texting you only from time to time. He never has time to hang out when you want, literally never. Or you see his text message list when you glance at his phone while you are hanging out.

Keeping you on the bench like this is really lame. You are worth so much more, and you need to be somebody’s first option and only choice. Don’t take anything less.

3. You are in friend-zone.
And that is the zone you really don’t wanna be in. But it appears you are stuck there. He texts you in search of advice. About anything. Even advice related to his ex, current or future girlfriend.

You are probably a very good friend and a very good listener, so he enjoys texting you and spending time with you. The text between two of you might even be more intimate than with other mutual friends.

You might also have some inside jokes. But he always refers to you as a friend. He is holding you close enough for you to not let go, but he is not behaving like somebody who has anything more than friendship in mind.

See also: A Tale of escaping FRIENDZONE! Note: It wasn’t easy

4. He is texting you because he is bored.
Man on the street with headphones in his ears

It’s that simple. Even though it might sound stupid, some guys just do things like that. He has nothing better to do, and your number is conveniently still on his phone.

The first indicator of these kinds of texts is that it takes a long time for him to remember to text you again. It might take weeks or even months.

He also might be giving you some lame excuses why it took so long for him to text, but he really misses your company. Don’t fall for that.

5. He is a player.
He is just used to playing games with women, and you are not the exception. This might not necessarily mean that he is not into you, but he is taking his time to get there.

He is probably insecure and wants to test where he stands. He also might be just finding out what he really wants.

He keeps texting because he wants you to be interested, but he never gives too much. He doesn’t text for days, and then he comes with sweet talk after a while.

You are texting and all of a sudden he disappears.

He takes his time to answer and keeps you waiting and wanting more, wondering what he’ll write next.

It’s a spider web, and if you are not careful, you could be stuck into texting for a while.

6. You are deluding yourself.
He told you upfront that he is not looking for anything serious right now, and you are just hooked on the word now, hoping that things will change in the future. But to be completely realistic, the odds are, things won’t change.

He is being honest and he told you what he really means.

7. He is just flirting.
For some guys, flirting is just a part of their personalities. They can’t help it. They might be in a relationship or married, but they have the urge to be noticed by other women. Even if they are just friends with you, they might exaggerate and lead you on unintentionally.

8. Booty calls.
He is just after one thing, and you are well aware of it. For one reason or the other, you might choose to ignore your common sense.

If he texts you only late at night out of the blue; if he is only texting you when he is drunk (alcohol gives him the strength to ask things that he would never do sober), he is just using the fact that you have the hots for him or even feelings for him.

Also, if his texts hint that he is just into sex. He texts things like: “You look so hot in your latest profile, Your booty looks great in those jeans.” or something similar. He is making his intentions obvious.

Man holding his backpack typing on phone

If you were hoping for something more, or that he will change with time and see your worth, I am sorry to say that ain’t gonna happen.

Texting is generally a good thing. It reduces stress. Especially if you just met a person and started to date. It gives you a chance to get to know them better before you start to engage into something more serious.

The bad side of texting is that somebody can misuse it. They can use text to manipulate you and make you do things their way.

These are just some things you need to be on the lookout for. Keep in mind though that some things can be misinterpreted, and real conversations can never be replaced with texts. Guys are usually upfront, and they use sentences without hidden meanings. So, don’t hold on to little parts of the message that say maybe, not now, we’ll see. You’ll be waiting in vain.

Some of the reasons for guys not being upfront are listed above. They have some ulterior motives for that. These reasons may help you determine if they are using your feelings for them and making you lose your time and energy.

Keep in mind that the best of men don’t use texting as a weapon to manipulate—they use it to arrange a date and see you in person.

They prefer talking to you face to face and avoid useless texting. They appreciate you and they value your time.

So, save your time and energy for them.