The Worst Sentence in a Woman’s Life: ” It Doesn’t Suit a Woman to…. “

Even in the hospital, when we are born, we are separated in a way that girls get a pink blanket, and the boys receive a blue one. As we grow up, girls learn that pink is their color and that they need to play with dolls.

In those first children’s games, they take dolls and imitate their moms. Boys take on the role of their fathers and their role is to go to work and earn money at their jobs.

All this seems harmless and naive. And that’s the way it is, as long as you’re still a kid.

But when such roles are shared in the same way in an adult world,  it becomes a problem.

We must admit that most people share jobs on men’s and women’s.

People think that it is only logical for a man to find a job after graduation. Nobody asks him how old is he or when he will start a family.

In such a society he has the right to do it when he wishes and on his terms. When he finds the job he wants, he becomes devoted to progress and then decides in which way he will continue his life.

HE HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE TIME FOR THOSE THINGS.

If a woman chooses her way in supporting such a man, no title is given to her, but it is implied that her decision is quite logical. That’s her job.

If she decides to do the same as a man, without thinking of her age and placing her education and advancement in the first place, people think she is selfish. She becomes a person who puts her interests first, who ignores the family story and the time when the family should be founded.

SHE DOESN’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE  WHEN IT IS HER IDEAL TIME FOR THAT BECAUSE THE SOCIETY ALREADY CHOSE IT FOR HER.

In fact, in such a society, the key problem is the phrase ” it’s time “.

It is time for you to get married, it is time to give birth to children – these are just some of the sentences that women listen to every day, even though we live in a century that is very advanced in many other things.

In the process of growing up from a small girl to an adult woman, every woman has met at least one of these three key sentences:

IT’S NOT FOR GIRLS, IT IS FOR BOYS

The first stage of growing up. It starts when a girl decides to play with a boy’s toys or some things she finds at home. In such situations, the parents and the people who guard her mostly say things like “leave it, that is not for you to play with” or  “take a doll, girls play with dolls”.  And so you give your child not what he really wants and what makes him happy but you give to him what the society wants.

Of course, this is still a harmless phase and it doesn’t  have to mean anything afterward.

Yet I have to ask a question:

Who decides which toys are for boys and which for girls?

These are of course the standards and norms imposed by society.

2. YOU ARE A GIRL, WATCH OUT HOW YOU BEHAVE

The second stage is perhaps the most vulnerable. It occurs in the period when a girl becomes a teenager. Experts define this period of life as a period in which people choose who will they continue to be in life (thinking about sexuality, religion, occupation, etc.). During this period, girls begin to use makeup, change their style of dressing and enter into love relationships. Of course, men in that period are beginning to experiment. When they try something out it is described as a phase, as a popular thing, and it is considered completely harmless. If they have a few relationships, they become very popular in society. At the same time, girls are told to watch out how they behave. So the scales are not the same. In such a society mistakes can be forgiven to men, but not to girls as well. They already need to know where their place is.

3. IT DOESN’T SUIT FOR A WOMAN

The third, worst phase that begins with the teenage period and never stops.

If a woman chooses a family and leaves her job and schooling, after a few years she becomes someone who is not well educated and who is less valuable in the company of other people.

If, however, she decides to build a career and put an end to the founding of a family, the first few years everyone tells her that she is a mature and independent person who knows what she wants in her life, and later she is told that she is opposed to the same things. All this is used as an argument against her. As much as she fights against it, she constantly has to listen to the story that it is a men’s job. And if she has no children in such a society, she is considered to be incomplete.

It’s not suited for a woman to be forty years old and go out with her friends, but it suits a man. He is a man and has the right to have some fun ?!

It’s not fair for a woman to enroll another college without having her own family, but the man can

This is sarcastic, but unfortunately, it is very true.

The woman is aware of her potential and that is the problem of this society. It is time to accept the truth:

Yes, women can do everything men can and you need to be aware of it.

And there is no need to give us pink or blue clothes if we want we will choose the yellow one and prove again that we are women.

After all, IT IS NOT SUITED FOR SUCH A DEVELOPED SOCIETY to set time for anyone to do some things.

I don’t know when it’s the right time to enter the desired college, I don’t know when it’s time to start some job or to fall in love, but I know that it is the right time to stop saying ” this doesn’t suit a woman”, because, believe me, there is no woman who wants to hear that. Such sentences leave a deep mark on some women’s  lifestyle, and some can move away from it because they know what is good for women.