I Choose A Career Over Children And Don’t Judge Me For It!

We are constantly listening to stories of tolerance. People like to boast of many things, but somehow there seems to be a special group of those who praise their own tolerance. For them everything is good, they respect everyone and all of this is meant under the same term: tolerance.

Everything can be understood in today’s society except one thing: a woman who doesn’t want to have children.

If someone decides not to eat meat anymore, that decision may sound ridiculous or weird, but we will certainly not interfere with that choice.

If somebody dyes her hair blue and our hair is black, we won’t go after this person trying to convince her that her hair should still be black.

We respect someone who enrolled a college, as much as the ones who didn’t. We respect people who changed their jobs or workplace.

We are listening to whether a person is born naturally or not. Some people like big weddings and some feel that marriage is a complete nonsense.

Everyone comments everything and they have the right to their opinions, of course.

Why is it so weird when a woman confesses that she doesn’t want to have children?

We have the right to make choices for everything in our lives.  Each one of us chooses what he thinks is best for him, the environment sometimes settles with that choice and sometimes doesn’t.

However, if people hear that you don’t want to have children, they will try to convince you, every minute of your life, that it is just a temporary phase and that you will change your mind.

What if I don’t change my mind?

No, that answer is unacceptable.

And it seems like all choices have explanations, apart from a woman choosing career instead of a family.

NO, MY CHOICES ARE NOT KIDS  AND I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT’S UNCLEAR HERE?

Am I a bad person because of that?

If I don’-want to have kids, does that mean I’m no longer a good daughter?

Does that mean I’m going to be a bad friend?

Or maybe it means I will be incapable of doing the things I have done so far?

And it’s quite clear that you want to have kids. I love your kids.

Not only do I love them, I like to spend time with your kids and want them all I want to do for myself.

You don’t have to ask me to change my decision at every meeting or family gathering.

That is why you should stop with these things that irritate us,  who have chosen life different from yours:

1. I DON’T THINK THAT I WOULDN’T BE A GOOD MOTHER

I usually listen to this. Then the story goes on that every woman thought she was going to be a bad mother and that it changed when the child came to the world.

I don’t think I’d be a bad mother, just the opposite. If I had chosen such a life, I know I would be a wonderful mother and I would love my children. But that doesn’t change my attitude.

2. I AM NOT DISAPPOINTED IN MEN

This is a ridiculous reason, but it is often mentioned. People think that someone who experienced a bad relationship decided not to have a family because of it,  that there is no real person to be the father of that child and that it is, therefore, better to choose this other option.

It has nothing to do with men. I have a partner and he respects my decision. We plan a life that doesn’t involve children. End of story.

3. I AM NOT UNHAPPY

If I don’t want kids, I will be an unhappy woman for the rest of my life?

I want to travel, I want to build a career, all the plans I have planned are successful. I have friends, I have a partner, I come out, I love my parents and I do the job I want.

Does this say something about me?

I live a filled life and I don’t think I need to prove it to you. I love everything I do, and do you love everything in my life? I think a happy man is the one who chooses the life he wants. If this life involves a career, not children, it is just another one in a variety of lives that are different.

4. I DO NOT THINK THAT BECAUSE I AM A YOUNG WOMAN

I decided not to have children in my twenties. All the people I knew said that was because of my age. I’m young and I don’t know what I want in life.

When I grow old, it will certainly change. Those were their words.

After ten years, after graduation, a career start, my opinion still has not changed.

Does this mean that my thinking will change in the forties? NOT!

And I do not think you should spend the next ten years of your life thinking about what’s going to happen to me.

5.”YOU WILL GROW OLD”

Eh, this phrase made me nervous. All those who said this to me visited their relatives only for holidays. Some grandparents were already in the nursing homes, and they did not even go there. So if I had children, where is the guarantee that someone will care about me in old age?

I still think it depends on who I’m going to hang out and what kind of person I will be. I believe no one will leave me dying on the road if he loves me.

I’ve chosen a career and I do not want a second for that. I am not an unlucky person.

I enjoy every day. This year I visited three states and next year I want to volunteer on another continent. Many things make me a happy person and I don’t condemn anyone. Some people I know have left their family, they are cheating on their partner, so I still have no right to talk about what to do. Some people wanted to cheat on their boss, some lied and some betrayed their friends. These are bad things and features and have nothing to do with whether they have children or not.

My career and success make me happy. I don’t want kids but I love them. I love those little creatures and condemn any form of violence against them. This does not change the fact that I just don’t want to be a mother.